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From: "juanita" <>
Subject: Re: [ML] A Genealogist's "story"....hopefully NOT a horror story
Date: Mon, 01 Aug 2005 20:21:40 -0500
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We bought our cemetery plot a no. of years ago and had a headstone
made and set. We had both our names and birthdates, including my
maiden name....with blanks (of course) for deaths....marriage
date....names of each of our children with their birthdates -
including one son who died at age 28 in another state, with his death
date and burial site. We made pictures of the headstone, it's
location, and put copies with our Wills in the safety deposit box,
along with the Deed to the cemetery plot.

When we downsized and sold our house and most our home furnishings,
my husband liked to tell everyone we'd sold everything except one
piece of real estate - our burial plot.

I was responsible for burying an aunt whose husband had died and had
no children. She was buried in a town 50 mi. from where she'd lived
for about 70 years. My Dad & Mom bought a burial plot back in 1917
when they lived there and when their firstborn child died and was
buried. They bought 5 gravesites but only the one was used, when
they moved away so Dad gave my aunt & uncle the deed to the remaining
burial sites. Since my oldest brother's name was different than my
aunt and uncle and my maternal grandparents had also been buried
there....all with different surnames, I had quite a "story" put on
her headstone. I had my aunt's name...saying she was wife of....her
husband also buried there....plus she was the daughter of my maternal
grandparents and an aunt to my deceased brother. All had different
surnames. Sounds confusing but it's really not....if future
generations are interested. <smile>

juanita

> Yes,
> I do know what will be on my stone, well most of it anyway as when I
> had the stone done for my husband I had my name and date of birth
> engraved also, the kids just need to have the date of my death
> engraved. My kids ask if it isn't strange to see that when we go to
> the cemetery, no it's comforting to know it has been taken care of.
> While there one day my kids and I met the man whose wife is buried in
> the next plot, he introduced himself and said something like "not
> everyone gets to meet the person who will be next to them." When I
> found the cemetery where my gr-grandparents and grandfather are, I had
> my daughter join me in looking for them, earlier this year we had
> success, I was ready to quit but my daughter said no let's drive to
> the back and look there, we did and first she found my gr-grandparents
> and that was great. Further down the road we found my grandfather,
> this sounds strange especially when I never knew him, he had died
> (committed suicide) five years before I was born, but when I touched
> his stone I cried. Since finding him we have been a few times, I
> think I felt bad because I know it has been years since anyone has
> been there. Linda Joy


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